tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post3845696083338041826..comments2024-03-10T22:43:50.928-07:00Comments on I have a blog. : You're 21 and not married!? At least you have the afterlife. brittany.molinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14038657219961660773noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-84711894639354543352014-04-20T01:53:19.763-07:002014-04-20T01:53:19.763-07:00I know this is an old entry but i just came across...I know this is an old entry but i just came across this while doing some research. I am not Mormon but my friend just returned from his mission two months ago and is already getting married this July. To someone who has cheated on him three times prior. I understand this was pressed on him and I just don't understand it. He will be attending BYU next fall, why rush into marriage when he could meet someone that could better fulfill his spiritual needs later down the line? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-16171195990107260722012-08-15T20:35:56.298-07:002012-08-15T20:35:56.298-07:00Nicely done Britt, I think I know why you're r...Nicely done Britt, I think I know why you're ranting lol.<br />This is an interesting piece for someone not affiliated with BYU, yet when I look at other mormon's from our mutual friends, I definitely see what you're talking about! A good amount is definitely that social influence, and you're on the ball with your parent reference. Of course, I haven't heard parent's talk about that, but it definitely adds to the pressure of finding a partner. I've talked to you briefly on and off about mormonism, along with a few other folks, so I understand the importance of the commitment in marriage. I would hope that for those who choose to settle, that they spend time reflecting on the strengths of their relationship and work together towards building something even stronger whenever things seem to not work out.<br /><br />Is there a dating network that is "mormon-friendly?" Although there are dating websites out there, it's obvious that a mormon dating site will already help find people with a common interest, religion. But overall, I hope that you can pass on your advice to those who are struggling. I know reading the piece is definitely motivating and I imagine it will ease tensions that some girls/guys might face with that social pressure in marriage.<br /><br />Anyways, I hope to hear from you soon. I'll probably give it 1 more shot to see if I can catch up with you while you're in town. If not, this might be the 4th or 5th consecutive semester that I haven't seen you in person.<br /><br />TCTimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11093910055467660244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-74595849436000649902012-08-14T18:28:15.170-07:002012-08-14T18:28:15.170-07:00I freaking love this Brittany haha I'm 24 sing...I freaking love this Brittany haha I'm 24 single and will most likely graduate from BYU not married and for some reason now this past month everyone (family, friends, acquaintances) is freaking out about me being single as if it's a sin that I haven't had a girlfriend since high school, but Heavenly Father has a plan for all of us and all of us have different plans. The Ace of Jacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02432499329277844266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-91747172125925420532012-08-14T11:59:31.046-07:002012-08-14T11:59:31.046-07:00I read every word! I couldn't agree more. I wo...I read every word! I couldn't agree more. I wonder what your thoughts are on stay at home moms because you have started off an amazing path towards your career. I actually envy you. When I graduated high school i had my whole college career planned out. I was gonna graduate have an awesome job, then settle down and get married when i was like 30. Then look what happened. I met kyle my first day of college. And I'm not saying i still can't do those things but when you're in a serious relationship you can't make decisions for yourself anymore. You have to take a whole other person into considerationg. Kyle and I have made a lot of sacrifices for each other but i don't regret any of it and we are willing to make sacrifices for the rest of our lives. Anyways, there's a different plan for everyone even if its not what you have in mind. Gwyennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05916200737987076268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-19159826516841184812012-08-14T11:01:13.927-07:002012-08-14T11:01:13.927-07:00Well thought out! You have the right principles.
...Well thought out! You have the right principles.<br /><br />You may recall that a long time ago we had the choice of two paths: in the first we were to be sent to a place far from our family where we would have to make eternally significant choices with only our agency, intelligence and a few friends to help -- we would make our own path; in the second we were to be sent to a place far from our family where we would have the choices made for us - we would all follow the same no-risk path. <br /><br />Whether that far away place is BYU or Earth, the principle is the same: do we want to use our agency and take risks, or do we want to be forced onto the same 'guaranteed results' path?<br /><br />With agency comes risk. You understand that I think. I pray you have the strength to commit to the right choice, for the second time.CuriousCityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03892851247105313794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-81138655545778812152012-08-14T11:00:33.692-07:002012-08-14T11:00:33.692-07:00Good work. I'm 25, Mormon, and male and I feel...Good work. I'm 25, Mormon, and male and I feel similar pressure. Actually, just kidding. Now everyone has forgotten about me and started asking my 19-year-old sister about all the guys she dates. At least that's a relief.Aaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14827988793925614652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-85859746657860800452012-08-14T10:51:33.805-07:002012-08-14T10:51:33.805-07:00I loved your post! It's hard for me to relate ...I loved your post! It's hard for me to relate because I was one of those crazy girls married at 18. But I completely agree that you CANNOT settle. It is crucial to find the right one. I have had several friends from high school (I'm 25 so not that old -- just go with me here) who married men or women who had some really scary skeletons in their closets and now, they're divorced. I don't judge them for their decisions or anything, but I know how much pain they're in and I know they would never have married the person in the first place if they had known. So if this kind of tragedy can be avoided, let's avoid it, for Pete's sake!<br /><br />I recently wrote a post about being young and married. I felt like such a weirdo being married so young, but I knew my man was the right one. Just like you shouldn't settle because of others' expectations, you shouldn't put off marriage because it isn't socially acceptable. <br /><br />Point is, we have to quit living others' lives for them and trust they're doing their personal best. Everyone has a different path to take. If we were all on the same one, life would be entirely boring. Plus, you're still SO young. Twenty-one is a baby. People are crazy to be acting like you're some spinster or something. Geez Louise! I'm glad you see how not crazy you are. Enjoy life and keep being awesome!<br /><br />P.S. -- maybe you're not married because of your sexy leggings. Haha, just had to throw that in!Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342495524685548162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-62864729753515998612012-08-14T10:47:52.259-07:002012-08-14T10:47:52.259-07:00this is so great. i totally get you....i am 22 i ...this is so great. i totally get you....i am 22 i have been dating someone for almost 2 years and we are so happy. we both graduated BYU and are off to start exciting careers, maybe even in different places. people bother us ALL the time about getting married....my married friends that got married at ages 19 and 20 loves to give us advice and tell us how great being married is. well guess what, we are so happy and our lives are also so great. the pressure you get is ridiculous, but i know that i am young, happy, and have so much life to live! when the time is right, we will know. but i am totally with you, i see so many young people rush into decisions and i feel so bad for them. this is a major decision that lasts eternity, so what if you don't get married before you are 21? think of how much you are going to change over the next few years!!! Anna Matkin Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17323997824288213508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3452879701493719978.post-59474615338710666912012-08-14T08:11:19.698-07:002012-08-14T08:11:19.698-07:00As a 21, single, LDS, BYU student...these are my t...As a 21, single, LDS, BYU student...these are my thoughts exactly. Thanks for posting! Provo is a strange, strange place when it comes to dating.<br /><br />Cheers to our senior year & possibly but not certainly finding a FEC before we graduate :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02458679408289185593noreply@blogger.com